Among the representatives of the fair half, there is often an opinion that it is preferable when - "you do not love yourself, but you are loved." Such a position, like any other, does not arise by chance. There are always very good reasons for any attitude towards someone or something. This opinion is limited to the choice between two positions, completely excluding the third option - mutual love. But it is this denied option that makes a person truly happy in terms of close relationships.
Based on my experience with my clients, I will try to clarify some of the root causes of dissatisfaction in a couple.
I still believe that there is no right or wrong in a relationship. There are different stages of relationship where
or there is satisfaction
or is it partial
or practically not felt by partners.
Psychological help is most often sought when a lot of tension has already accumulated in a couple due to a lack of understanding and dissatisfaction in the broadest sense.
I want to share my findings regarding this topic. I do this to show how deep and ambiguous the reasons for the confrontation between a man and a woman can be. And so that while reading this article, someone, I hope, understands a lot about himself, his situation and avoids superficial judgments and rash actions.
Entering into a relationship with someone, we seek to satisfy our immediate needs for this moment. In their expectations next to the chosen one, people see themselves as more confident, loving, needed and loved. And so they acquire these same relationships, but over time, some kind of dissatisfaction is felt and irritation periodically arises in the direction of the chosen one. Then everything goes on increasing.
With each passing day, the tension is aggravated, and deficits are felt more acutely. These changes are lived and felt by both partners. When it is uncomfortable and difficult for one, the other, of course, feels such changes and it is not easier for him. And now comes the time of confrontation, mutual claims, resentment and misunderstanding of what is happening with the relationship.